Trusting ourselves as parents
There’s a moment many of us reach when we are parenting a neurodivergent child. A moment when we begin to doubt ourselves and ask:
“Maybe the school knows best.”
“Maybe I’m overthinking this.”
“Maybe I should just leave it.”
My in my own experience... the school rarely knows better than an attuned, educated, loving parent. That's just my opinion!
Parents are motivated to get it right, we don’t want to cause difficulty. We DO NOT want to be “that parent”, and we don't want to damage relationships.
The problem is that schools may not see your child's effort (because they might mask), or their exhaustion, or their dysregulation after school. These are the things that don’t get seen in the classroom
So as a parent, you bring a unique perspective. Trusting yourself doesn’t mean dismissing professionals, if done in a kind manner, it can mean holding your knowledge alongside theirs.
It means being able to say:
“I hear what you’re saying…and I also wonder if we could consider this.”
That’s not conflict, it's advocacy, and good parenting!
Over time, this can build a real partnership, rather than silence or arguments. The hope is that it brings thoughtful, respectful contribution.
If you’re feeling unsure right now…I get it!
Myself and our team are here to help. You can join by the link below in the PS and talk to us on Thursday at 12:30 noon.
THIS WEEK we are going to do a deep dive on the NCSE - circulars, guidelines and everything you need to advocate from a place of knowledge.
Your Child and Adolescent Psychologist,
Lorraine Xx
P.S. In the Membership this week, our webinar will explore how the NCSE - the National Council of Special Education works.
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