Helping your family co-create rhythm this summer 🌞

To my wonderful Neurodiversity Parents,

Great work last week, so many great questions at the start and the end of our session. I am looking forward to hearing how things went for you during the week.

Afterwards, I was thinking that summer routines can feel like quicksand, too rigid, and everything collapses… too loose, and nothing holds. 

I thought the questions about managing change were particularly thought provoking (especially the sibling ones), so let’s find the middle ground—together.

This week, I’d love you to explore structure vs flow through a whole-family lens, not just individual behaviours.

Here’s your toolkit:

💬 Script: A Conversation Starter

“I’ve noticed our days have felt a bit tricky lately. Some of us like plans, some of us like more space. What do you think your body and brain need to feel calm during the day?”
“Let’s each share one thing that helps us feel settled, and one thing that’s been hard.”

This script invites your child into the process—validating their preferences while gently teaching self-awareness.

✍️ Exercise: The Family Flow Map

1. Draw a simple chart with your children—3 columns:
   What helps me feel calm | What stresses me out | What I need more/less of

2. Do it for each family member (you too!).

3. Highlight overlaps—and conflicts. Then create one small rhythm that honours everyone (e.g. a quiet hour, a shared check-in, or a visual plan for transitions).

⭐ Top Tip:

Don’t aim for the perfect routine - aim for a safe enough rhythm that meets the majority of needs most of the time. Flexibility is a form of structure when done with intention.

You’re doing powerful work, even when it feels messy.

Looking forward to seeing you in the LIVE session this week, where we’ll go deeper into:

• Co-creating rhythms with your child

• Navigating sibling differences

• Managing parent guilt around “not getting it right”

With belief in your capacity,

Your Child and Adolescent Psychologist,

Lorraine Xx