Structure? Flexible Flow? Or something in between…
Hi lovely parents!
Goodness, it was busy last week getting back into the swing of work!
I hope that ye are all doing okay this week. After coming back from holidays, I was again struct by how summer can bring a strange kind of pressure, can’t it? Especially juggling childcare, work, camps, etc.!
You want to rest… but some unstructured days leave everyone dysregulated.
You want to create routines… but too much structure creates resistance or anxiety.
You wonder: "Hmmmm how could I make this a little easier!?"
Here’s something to consider that might help:
There is no one-size-fits-all—especially for families with deeply sensitive, deeply feeling children.
What often helps is zooming out.
Instead of trying to fix one child’s needs, ask:
💭 What helps our whole family feel more regulated?
💭 Do we need more rhythm, more flexibility, or clearer expectations?
Because here’s the truth: feelings are contagious.
If the household feels frantic or fragmented, no single routine will solve that.
But if we gently name what’s not working, and co-create a better flow or structure as a unit, regulation becomes a shared experience, not an individual battle.
TOP TIP: Consider 1 small change that will help the entire family regulate this week.
Kindest regards,
Your Child and Adolescent Psychologist,
Lorraine Xx
PS
Inside the EPT Membership, we’re diving deeper into how to do just that - figure out the flow-structure balance.
This week’s LIVE session will explore:
✨ How to talk with your child about what their nervous system needs
✨ What to do when siblings have competing needs
✨ How to build a flexible-but-safe rhythm that holds the whole family
Ready to bring more balance to your summer?
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